Find a Way to Say Something Nice

Even in the best of circumstances during a divorce, it may be next to impossible for you to speak positively about your (former) spouse to the children. The reality is that you must find a way.

Jayne A. Major, Ph.D., has an excellent article on this topic titled “Parental Control”, which you can read at Major explains that children are not mature enough to process the negative feelings being said about their parent. It unfairly puts them in the middle of their two parents and forces them to choose sides.

Children need to form a bond with both parents, and they need to ultimately judge their parents on their own. As Major says, “We know that when parents can communicate and solve problems for the sake of their children, the outcome in dissolution can be positive.”

Go ahead and read the article at You may find it enlightening.

     Posted on September 5, 2006 at 4:26 pm | No comment

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