Effects of Divorce on Children When They Are Used as Messengers

It’s hard for kids to be kids these days. We’re grooming them to be ready for school at earlier and earlier ages. The volume of homework has increased exponentially and some school districts have done away with recess.

Effects of Divorce on Children

Divorce adds yet another layer of difficulty to letting kids have time to play and just be kids. The effects of divorce on children when they are used as messengers makes matters worse. Some parents involve the kids in the parenting logistics. It will be significantly better for your children if you are divorcing without using your children as messengers.

It can be tempting to have your child send a message to the other parent. Whether it’s as simple as “Mom said it’s your turn to provide snacks for the Girl Scout meeting,” or as loaded as “Dad said you’d better not be late dropping me off at her house…again,” tasking a child with being the go-between does damage in a few ways. It places too much responsibility on the child. It sets an example of adults avoiding responsibility. It also results in further breakdown of communication between parents.

Adults often have strong emotional motivation for avoiding their former spouses, and perhaps valid reasons for doing so. But divorced parents must consider their children’s developmental needs first and be the adult so the child doesn’t have to.

Would you like to review how to keep your children from being the messengers when divorcing? Email Keith@AttorneyGrossman.com, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

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Does Every Divorce Need a Shark

Do you need help in shaping your future? Email Keith@AttorneyGrossman.com, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

Interested in learning more about dealing with divorce? Download my free e-book: Does Every Divorce Need a Shark?

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