Infidelity And Alimony In a Divorce

Alimony is determined based on many factors. In Florida, adultery can be included as one of them.


The rule states: “The court may consider the adultery of either spouse and the circumstances thereof in determining the amount of alimony, if any, to be awarded.” Other considerations include the duration of the marriage and established standard of living, the financial resources of each party, each person’s earning capacities, the contribution of each party to the marriage, any income sources and many more.

If there has been infidelity, be honest with your attorney. It’s never a good idea to hide information from the person you’re paying to be your advocate. Secrets have a way of being revealed, and it’s in your best interest to control how that will happen. An attorney who has a complete picture of his or her client’s situation is best able to chart a course for achieving the best outcome.

Adultery is most relevant in deciding alimony when the adulterous spouse has potentially injured the financial wellbeing of the other spouse. Gifts to, vacations taken with or bills paid for the “other” man or woman may represent money that could have been spent to benefit the marriage. A qualified attorney can help you understand all the types of spousal support available, and the factors the courts consider to determine that support.

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When Adoptive Parents Divorce

Adoptive parents often have special concerns for their children’s wellbeing and development, and those can be magnified during a divorce. Adopted children often feel different from their peers and siblings. They may carry a sense of loss for their birth parents, whether they knew them or not.

Adoptive Parents Divorce

In a divorce, many kids fear that they did something to cause the situation. When a divorce happens following an adoption, those children can internalize that feeling even more profoundly, resulting in guilt and other negative effects.

Diligent parents take extra steps to make sure an adopted child feels as loved and valued as siblings that are related to their parents by blood. During a divorce, they must use even greater cause to communicate in an age-appropriate way that the reasons for their decision have nothing to do with the adoption, or anything the child has done.

On top of being adopted, a divorce can make a child feel alone and even more different from her peers. An attorney trained in collaborative family law can help adoptive parents through the divorce process with a focus on the child’s wellbeing. It can also be helpful to seek help from a mental health counselor who has experience with adoption and divorce.

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Prenuptial Agreements Can Help You When You Are Divorcing

By Danielle Levy, Esq. at Grossman Law & Conflict Management

Many people view prenuptial agreements as a death sentence for a relationship.  Couples often shy away from the possibility of entering into a prenuptial agreement because of the historically negative connotation associated with them.  No one wants to talk about the “D” word when they are in their honeymoon stage. Prenuptial agreements can help you when you are divorcing.

Prenuptial Agreements

Initiating the conversation about whether to sign a prenuptial agreement isn’t easy, but contemplating and openly discussing the various legal ramifications of your marriage and the potential impact of a divorce can have actually improve your relationship with your significant other.

Prenuptial agreements force the parties to engage in uncomfortable conversations and provide full disclosure as to their respective assets and liabilities.  Being upfront about your financial picture at the onset of a marriage could prevent some future arguments.  Financial disagreements are at the center of many divorces.  Seeing the other parties’ financial situation can give you further insight into how they save, spend and manage their income and vice versa.

It is important to know how each of you views your roles in the marriage going forward.  If one of you hopes to be a stay-at-home parent in the future but the other spouse is not in agreement, it is better to have that discussion before you get married, then realize a couple years down the line.

Prenuptial agreements give you the ability to add some predictability to the seemingly unpredictable.  You can include provisions on any number of issues such as division of property and alimony in the event you get a divorce.  Some couples are even agreeing to include a social media clause in their agreements.  As social media usage has skyrocketed over the past few years, so has its appearance in family law cases.  People are opting to include clauses that limit the information that can be shared on social media in the event of a separation or divorce.  It is not unusual for divorcing spouses to take part in revenge porn by posting nude photos or videos of their former spouse online without their consent.  A social media clause could limit the possibility of finding yourself the victim of revenge porn.

A business owner wouldn’t enter into a business partnership without a partnership agreement; so why would you want to enter into a marriage without a prenuptial agreement?

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