Getting Divorced, Get Time On Your Side

There are few decisions more life changing than the decision for getting divorced. Once that big decision has been made, there can be a seemingly endless barrage of equally consequential choices to deal with.

Getting Divorce

When emotions run high, it’s natural to want to “get it over with” or do certain things before your spouse has a chance to do them first.

Believe it or not, it is possible to get a divorce that produces a more-positive outcome for all involved. This rarely happens, however, when choices are made quickly. One of the biggest regrets divorced people have is that they should have taken more time to process things emotionally, listen to their counselors or attorneys and generally consider the big picture.

The decisions you make in the midst of a divorce can have a far-reaching impact on your financial situation, where you will live, any child support obligations, your relationship with your children and how well you communicate with your former spouse-to-be. Take it slow, and work with an attorney who has the patience and forethought to explain the potential consequences of the decisions you must make – including the ultimate decision: when to get a divorce.

Interested in a more-positive outcome for everyone involved? Email, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

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How To Get Divorced and Keep Your Attorney’s Fees Down

Hiring an attorney is never something you look forward to doing, but is sometimes a necessary evil.

How to Get Divorced

 Here are a few tips on how to get divorced and keep your attorney’s fees down:

  1. Make a wish list of what your ideal outcome would look like and what points you may be willing to concede or negotiate. It’s important to keep an open mind. Don’t be quick to turn down a settlement offer just because it wasn’t exactly what you started out wanting.
  2. Be forthcoming with information to your attorney. The more information we have the better we will be able to represent you. This will prevent us from being surprised in the middle of your case.
  3. Provide all the documentation requested of you. You can expect your bill to go up if your attorney’s office has to reach out to you numerous times to obtain documents. If you don’t have access to documents you are expected to provide, then communicate that to your attorney and we will help you.
  4. Most offices now are “paperLESS,” meaning we try to limit the amount of paper documents in the office. If you provide electronic copies of your documents, the attorney will not need to spend time scanning the documents onto the computer.
  5. Email is often the quickest and easiest way to get an answer about your case. Don’t be afraid to call the office to ask your question or schedule some time to talk with a paralegal or attorney. You can make a list of multiple questions you have and pose them at the same time.
  6. Take notes during meetings and calls with your attorney to avoid having to contact us again about the same issue.
  7. Visit for video tutorials to help you through the litigation and mediation process.
  8. We also provide affordable document preparation and legal research if you are looking for some advice on how to draft your own legal documents.

For assistance, email, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

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Divorce Checklist – Important Things to Take Care of After the Final Judgment

With all the emotional and financial stress that so often surrounds getting a divorce, many people forget important things to take care of after the Final Judgment is entered.

Divorce Checklist

Here is a divorce checklist you can reference to make sure you don’t overlook something.

1. Save a copy of your Final Judgment and Settlement Agreement for future reference. If your Settlement Agreement includes a Parenting Plan, it is likely you will need to refer back to the parenting plan often to verify the timesharing or holiday schedule.

2. Change your estate planning documents. If you previously had a Will appointing your former spouse as personal representative or beneficiary, you may want to have it amended. Contact our office for a referral to an estate planning attorney.

3. Make sure all additional Orders that may need to be entered after the Final Judgment are signed. For example an Income Withholding Order or a Qualified Domestic Relations Order may need to be entered to secure support and the division of retirement account(s). Check with your attorney to make sure the employer responsible for withholding the obligor’s income has received the Notice of the Income Withholding Order. A certified copy of the Qualified Domestic Relations Order will need to be sent to the retirement plan administrator.

4. Meet with your Financial Planner to reassess your financial needs and how your financial plan should be modified to better match your needs.

5. If necessary, change the titles on assets like your home and cars.

6. Take care of closing all joint bank and credit card accounts.

7. Obtain individual auto and health insurance.

8. Change the beneficiary on any life insurance policies.

9. If your name has been legally changed, you will need to request a new Social Security Card, driver’s license, passport, change name on all bank and credit card accounts, and notify your children’s school of your name change.

10. Keep records of all alimony and child support payments paid or received. Also record payments for extracurricular and uncovered medical expenses.

11. Keep a log of any future incidents involving the children.

12. You may also want to schedule appointments with a counselor, therapist or other professional to help you transition. We can also refer you or your children to professionals who specialize in family counseling.

Have questions about the divorce checklist that you need answered? Email, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

Would you like to have a better understanding of the role emotions play in a divorce? Download my free e-book: Does Every Divorce Need a Shark?

Does Every Divorce Need a Shark

Email, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

Interested in having a better understanding of the role emotions play in a divorce? Download my free e-book: Does Every Divorce Need a Shark?

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