When the Judge is Deciding Child Custody

Child Custody

For divorcing parents, the stakes are as high as they get when the Judge is deciding child custody. There may be issues with assets and debts, but the wellbeing of the children is always the most important. Parents often feel like they’re under the microscope.

Naturally, everyone wants to be viewed as a loving, patient, capable parent. This does not mean that one parent should work to tarnish the image of the other parent.

With the emotional turmoil that can come with divorce, it can be all too easy to fall into the trap of needing to be “better than.” Fabricating stories about the other parent is always counterproductive. It’s damaging to any remaining respect between parents, and it can hinder the process of establishing an ideal long-term parenting plan.

If divorce is in the cards, chances are the two parents have less in common than they used to. You may not agree with your co-parent’s decision to take your 10-year-old to a PG-13 movie. When your co-parent starts dating someone else, it can be another can of worms. But typically the child’s physical and emotional welfare are not endangered in any way by those decisions. Your child’s welfare, however, could be endangered by how you react to your co-parent’s decisions.

Children deserve to love and be loved by both parents. It will take some work, and decide for yourself what a “good-enough parent” looks like. Chances are it will look a lot like your former spouse.

Would you like to discuss child custody? Email Keith@AttorneyGrossman.com, or call toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

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The Only Voice That Matters When Getting A Divorce

When a marriage is ending, friends and family will inevitably come forward with plenty of advice. Whether requested or not, it’s advisable to accept that advice with a grain of salt – or a whole shaker full.

Getting a Divorce

The only voice that matters when getting a divorce is your voice.

The decision to divorce is an intensely personal and emotional one. Talking with an attorney you trust is a good first step in negotiating the potentially stormy seas of dissolving your marriage. A trustworthy lawyer would not pressure a client into filing for divorce.

Likewise, loved ones not directly involved with your marriage have no vote. Accept their offers to take care of the kids when you feel overwhelmed or need a day to tend to your affairs. Let them take you out to lunch or come visit to keep you company. And when a friend attempts to offer you advice that you didn’t ask for or that rubs you the wrong way, you can find a way to say, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

By remembering that the only voice that matters is yours, you maintain your integrity, which is key in eventually achieving a better outcome for your family.

Take a moment, and download my free e-book: Does Every Divorce Need a Shark? It’s a helpful guide when you are considering getting a divorce.

Do you have questions? Would you like to learn more about getting a divorce? Email Keith@AttorneyGrossman.com, or call me toll free: 877-687-1392, or locally: 239-210-7516.

Does Every Divorce Need a Shark